FINALLY: The secret to a fulfilling life. It's not just money, nor is it more time. It's not even in having outstanding relationships, although all of these are indeed important.

A fulfilling life is deceptively simple: - to achieve what you really want. Although there may be many areas that need attention, a great place for you to start is with the big picture. It's crucial to overcome your stress and self-sabotage.

"Today is the First Day
of the Rest of Your Life!"

This quotation blew me away when I first saw it some thirty years ago. I remember thinking there's a vital message for me here! Yet if I had made no changes, it was still just as valid. What did it mean to me?

As a brand-new personal growth student, it told me how to get more out of life - to become more effective. That effectiveness is the key to achievement - and to getting less of what you don’t want. It still means the same to me today.

Why continue doing the same old stuff when you know that it's not working? If you're unhappy with where you're at, are you listening to the message? Your life is telling you that what you're doing is not effective.

The mind likes to rationalize what you're doing as right, and to ignore the unsatisfactory results. But when you ignore reality, no matter how seemingly justified, you are self-sabotaging.

You Want what you Want and
You Don't Want what you Don't Want

Reality - your experience - is the real key here. Is what you're doing giving you the results you want? If you're not enjoying your circumstances, then how can this be what you really want?

There may seem to be a dilemma here, but one major cause of stress can actually cause this. You may be achieving what you think you want, but this and what you actually want can be two very different things!

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• Do you have the results you really want?
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• How much of the time are you truly happy?
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• Are your circumstances less than ideal?
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• Do you have the time for yourself and your family that you both deserve?

If your answers to these crucial questions don’t totally delight you, then you are in the right place, so stay with me, just keep reading!

Perhaps you’re doing what you've been taught to do, as opposed to what brings you the circumstances and the time you really want. These two are not the same, although this is an enormous part of the problem - you've been taught to believe otherwise.

When you believe someone else’s truth, coming to your own will be a constant problem. Their context, their perspective, is different to yours. Yet you need to know what's true for you in your experience, not in theirs! Without it, you will battle to live your truth. And untruth brings stress.

You have a self-sabotage mechanism

The key to life is the experience you’re having. If you're not getting the results you really want, you need to recognize reality - that what you're doing is not working for you! So what is stopping you enjoying life to the fullest?

Your self-sabotage mechanism. Its job is to give you what you don't want.

You would never sabotage yourself if you were clear about the consequences. So self-sabotage misleads you, minimizes problems, exaggerates, deceives you - and gives you stress. One of its favorite strategies is to hijack your mind and tell you untruths.

So you need to study how self-sabotage works. You need to find out what does actually work - as opposed to what your mind thinks will work. Your experience is the key here, rather than what your mind thinks about your experience.

It seems simple, and it is simple. But - and here's another natural law that most people ignore:


Despite the wide misinformation about simple and easy, there's just no correlation. Some simple things are easy, and some are very difficult.

For example: stopping smoking. Is this hard to do? But it's so simple, here's how. Just do this and you'll have stopped smoking. Never, never, ever, put another cigarette in your mouth! Sooo simple, yet so difficult ...

Are Your Thoughts True, or Untrue?

Well, yes ... and no. Sometimes your thoughts are true, which means sometimes they are not. And if this realization comes as a surprise, even a small one, then you just don't realize how much self-sabotage affects your life!

The er … improvements that come when you improve your context are truly amazing. (Your context where you come from when you do what you do, it’s your perspective, your viewpoint, your take on the matter. Whereas, in contrast, your content is what you do.)

So you simply need to look at each thought and ask yourself,


You’ll find it easier if you start with just the important ones.

If you already know that the mind sometimes tells you untruths, and yet you usually discount any undesirable results as - I just made a mistake - then you may not realize that the original incorrect thought as well as your usual answer are both self-sabotage.

Could you use More Time?

Another common form of self-sabotage is to think you need more time. Lots more time! But you're so experienced at doing what you do that you don't have time for much of anything else. So you don't investigate why it's not working for you.

Then you don't reduce stress even though you stress about being too busy and having no time. You just continue being too busy and having no time!

But everybody has 24 hours a day, whether they're rich or poor, successful or unsuccessful. Everybody! When you believe your mind no matter what it tells you, you're being gullible!

To Achieve The Results you desire -
Learn the Secrets of Effectiveness

If you want things to improve, then you are in the right place and this is the right time. But how will you ever know this until you’ve experienced the amazing benefits you get by overcoming your self-sabotage mechanism.

Yet what are the choices you have? Either you continue to suffer - or to find out why by learning the natural laws which empower you to improve.

Is there a better time to learn how to create more desirable circumstances than right now?

Invest your next thirty minutes in exploring how to stop your self-sabotage. Right now, this is the most effective thing you can do to reduce stress and achieve more favorable results. Don’t let your self-sabotage mechanism stop you!


Reflect on this important axiom, and then do what you already know will take to towards more peace, love, calm, and joy... no matter how much your mind may try to persuade you otherwise. Your life is indeed in your hands!

You Can't Delegate Your Exercise!

Achieving the results you really want is easier when your context is more effective - when you think in ways that support you rather than bring undesirable results. Yet you have to put in the work.

You know you can’t get fit by standing by and watching somebody else exercising their body. But do you do the mental equivalent? How often do you delegate your thinking?

You need to exercise your own mind. That means you need to use it to examine your thoughts, and decide which ones are true and which ones are not working for you. Then you’re putting your energy into making your mind fitter - into becoming more effective.

This doesn't just mean reading about something, or listening to someone talk about it. It means doing your own thinking. You need to explore your own thoughts, rather than just accept the ones someone else - or your mind - gives you.

Do You Want the Results that Doing It will bring?

If any of this speaks to your heart, then you need to know that truth has its own beauty. The elegance of truth gladdens the heart. If you continue exploring these truths, they will bring incredible joy -as well as amazing results - into your life.

Now there's no problem if you don't have the time or just can't be bothered. But don't expect your circumstances, or your stress levels, or the amount of money, or peace, or love, or calm, or joy in your life to improve.

Simply recognize that now you have brought yourself here, any decision not to learn how to improve your circumstances is itself self-sabotage. And procrastination, even for real reasons, will end up shooting you in your own foot.

Life Strategies is all about being effective, so don’t self-sabotage - explore when, why, and how you can make anything happen. Continue studying to learn the best way to stop creating what you don't want. Find out how to produce more of what you desire instead...

You now know what to do to change your circumstances in the way you want them to change. So take the first vital step:- start now!

Who else can do it but you? When better to start than now?

Food for Thought