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Reacting vs Responding to the Circumstances

Do you react to what's happened? Or do you respond? And how vital are the different consequences anyway? Can a reaction have that important an effect?

Do Not Do this - it left me Feeling Stupid!

It was time to plan the upcoming year, so the charitable organization at which I volunteered held a meeting - everyone was invited. One crucial area of discussion was fund-raising and when to have such events.

"Let’s have two a year, at spring and Easter." said Sharon, one of the more outspoken people on the committee.

My reaction was immediate. 'Wouldn't it make more sense to spread them apart rather than having both at the same time of the year?' I blurted out, not even waiting till those on the committee had their say.

Her suggestion sounded really funny to me. I have lived most of my life in the northern hemisphere where spring and Easter are roughly the same time of year. But we were in South Africa - south of the equator!

Everyone looked at me. Spring and Easter are six months apart, they patiently explained.

Then I realized I had reacted. I had assumed that Sharon was making a mistake instead of exploring the possibility that I might have a mistaken viewpoint on the matter!

Show You Are Conscious Instead

Life had brought me yet another perfect opportunity to respond consciously, rather than show how unconscious I could be. It seems that intelligence is wasted unless you actually use it!

Yet instead of responding, I re-acted, acted as on previous occasions. Reactions are unconscious, there's little or no real thinking involved. I used to assume that if something didn't make any sense, then it must be the other person's fault. Would I ever make a mistake?

But to assume is to make an ASS out of yoU and ME, so I ended up with egg all over my face. It also alienated my friends as they realized I had thought Sharon must be slow. But it was me not her - I had not thought before speaking.

A response is conscious rather than just an unconscious knee-jerk repetition. A response shows thoughtfulness, it uses your intelligence to consider how best to respond.

My reaction left me feeling stupid. How I wished I had actually thought before speaking up. Yet when I saw the apparent incongruity in Sharon's suggestion, I jumped in feet first. I did not stop to explore whether she really would have made such a stupid suggestion, or whether I might have made a mistake. My mother used to say,


Wise woman, my mother.

Where Does Your Reaction Come From?

Where does your reaction come from? Your past.

Your judgements of the past have taught you that this is good and that is bad. Or someone has told you what is good and bad, and you believed them. If you let the past rule the present, you react. Then your past decisions repeat the same actions as last time. You re-act, you act again, no matter whether it got you the results you were looking for or not!

Rather take the time to think, to choose a better course of action, to decide coolly rather than react emotionally. Then you can respond appropriately by creating your response. Ask yourself whether a reaction - or a response - is more likely to produce a desirable result.

The Universe is On Your Side

There's even a viewpoint which says that the universe is being kind. It's bringing you such situations so you can learn to give up reacting and instead respond more appropriately.

Respond has the same root as responsibility. Without taking responsibility for your response, you'll battle to achieve any goal or intended result. Now is a great opportunity to choose what you want to be.

Could the Law of Attraction have brought you this particular situation to enable you to let go of your previous reaction, so you can move on?

Create Rather Than React

Most people have been taught to focus on what to do. If this is your emphasis, you probably just keep on doing. Doing the same or similar things, repeating the way you always have. Re-acting, acting as you did before. Yet how can the same ever give different results?

There's no real thought in a reaction, so nothing will change. To produce a different outcome, instead learn to create your response in the moment!

There are immense benefits when you create. When you see things differently, when you see you want different results, then stop reacting and instead create more desirable circumstances.

There's a big difference between creation and reaction. It's the "c"! When you c - see - differently, more clearly, then you can create the results you want.

What creates results? Your thoughts, your words and your actions (your deeds). And if you want a certain outcome, then you need to focus your thoughts, and your words and your actions on its achievement. The more your thoughts, your words and your deeds are aligned with your intention, the faster you create your desired result.

The Dilemma

The impulse to react, rather than respond, is very real.

A reaction takes little if any conscious effort. Whereas creating an authentic response takes time and energy. You need to learn to think for yourself, rather than just repeat your previous actions, or even someone else's.

At Life Strategies, you learn how to work with these empowering distinctions, how to achieve what you really want to achieve, and not to end up with what you don't want. Learning the valuable difference between a reaction and a response is an important step toward this.

Yet if this wasn't already abundantly clear to you, then self-sabotage has probably stopped you reaching this conclusion!

But I Know All This, some say

Some believe they know all this. But if your reactions bring you undesirable results then you do NOT know it, although you may know about it. You can't fool the universe, the proof of the pudding is in the eating.

Much of the human race lives in denial. And this doesn't mean on the river in Egypt! We say we want:

• to care for the Earth, yet we chop down her rain-forests and plunder her resources as unlimited
  
  
• a society free of rage and violence, then we entertain ourselves - and our children - with TV programs of graphic rage and violence
  

• our young ones to be responsible, yet our school "Zero-Tolerance" laws take that responsibility away by mandating totally disproportionate responses
  

• the truth, yet we follow Adolf Hitler's strategy of lying whenever we think it expedient. After all - doesn't The End Justify The Means?
  

Do any of these strategies work to give us the outcomes that we desire? Isn't there sufficient evidence of their inevitable consequences right in front of our eyes?

If you are not experiencing the results you genuinely want, then you cannot really know "All This." Your experience will change when you have changed.

If any of this speaks to your heart, then you know that truth has its own beauty. The elegance of truth gladdens the heart. If you continue exploring these truths, they will bring amazing joy into your life.

The difference between just knowing about, and authentic knowing, is a crucial distinction which makes a world of difference, one which self-sabotage has obviously been keeping from you.

Stop your Self-Sabotage

Achieving what you really want means learning how to overcome your self-sabotage mechanism. Everyone has one, and it operates all the time.

The self-sabotage mechanism generally operates through context, not through content. What's the difference?

• your context is where you come from when you do what you do
  
  
• your content is what you do, how you handle your affairs
  

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In the long run, your increase in effectiveness will increase your earnings by at least the same amount. And the increase is permanent. As Benjamin Franklin famously observed,


How much will a twenty percent increase in earnings amount to in dollars over the rest of your life?

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