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Overcome your self-sabotage!

Wendy had told me Susan was attractive, so I was looking forward to meeting her. "The weather-man says the weekend will be lovely," I said when I called, "Do you have a bike? Shall we go for a ride on Saturday?"

We'd been introduced by my assistant at work, who knew I was not dating anyone, and nor was her sister. It was our first date, and Susan turned out to be very attractive.

The weather was perfect, sunny and not too hot. We rode along the shady path by the river through the park, and then relaxed on the grass to enjoy the picnic I'd brought for us.

It was a warm and lazy day, I was feeling amorous and made a gentle pass at her. The circumstances seemed perfect, but romance needs both to say yes. She wasn't yet comfortable enough with me and ducked. She probably just wanted more time to get to know me first.

After a delicious lunch we continued the ride. Then it came time to go our separate ways. She'd had a good time and I could see she wanted to see me again. She put her bike on its stand out of the way so we could enjoy a hug and perhaps a kiss.

But I was disappointed that she hadn't wanted any romance earlier, so I passed on her unstated invitation. I stayed holding my bike between us!

We chatted pleasantly for several minutes, but I didn't arrange anything further. I neither called her nor ever saw her again.

If I'd kissed her when she was willing, who knows where we might have ended up? I wanted a romantic relationship with her, yet my behavior ensured we both lost out.

This was just self-sabotage

My mind used to tell me that revenge is sweet. If you do something I don't like, then I should do the same to you in return so you get to see how it feels.

Looking back today at this experience with Susan, I really missed out. She was willing, I wanted her, and yet I declined! Believing my thoughts without question has let me to behave in some very weird ways!

We all do what we like to think will get us the results we want, yet mistakes in perspective happen. Even the opposite manifests from time to time, as happened to me here. This suggests that self-sabotage is a ongoing problem!

Now I know you wouldn’t follow me, you understand that it's foolish to repeat actions which don't have desirable consequences. I no longer even blush when say I've done so once or twice. Perhaps on more than a couple of occasions. :-)

But have you ever had an argument with your partner, when all you wanted was to make love instead? Or argued with a colleague or a friend and brought unwanted tension rather than the results you desired?

I don't know how many great opportunities I've missed out on by such counter-productive behavior. How often have I believed and then taken action on such untrue thoughts?

If any of this seems familiar, and you want more desirable results, then read on - the Life Strategies program to become more effective is what you need.

You want to Achieve your Goals?

Overcoming self-sabotage is one of the most interesting challenges of all. And certainly the most productive in terms of results.

Think of the results that you would have achieved if you hadn't made the mistakes that you've made in the past. This will give you a taste of the benefits. Now imagine eating the entire meal!

You need to learn to think differently. Wisdom suggests you put energy into becoming more effective and doing what works more often. To recreate your internal context so that you can be more effective at producing what you really want, no matter what that is.

Yet everybody has a self-sabotage mechanism (ssm). It works all the time, and its job is to bring you arduous circumstances, so when you get more desirable ones you can really appreciate them. To know one thing, you also need to know its opposite.

This suggests that self-sabotage is not wrong, although it generally results in less than appealing circumstances. As Arianna Huffington so insightfully observed:

Some Consequences are More Desirable than Others

All actions have consequences, and some consequences are more desirable than others. And to end up with more desirable circumstances, you need to overcome your self-sabotage.

Yet don’t worry, life will give you plenty of opportunity to practice!

Self-sabotage is subtle. The ssm has all sorts of strategies, some of which you may recognize - perhaps even intimately (smile, big smile). One very common strategy is to hijack your mind and give you untrue thoughts.

Life becomes more enjoyable when you learn to distinguish between the thoughts which are true, and the untrue ones. You also need to find the newness, the freshness, the variety in change enjoyable!

This may sound like something to avoid, rather leave making changes till later. But that thought itself is pure self-sabotage. Believe it or not, overcoming self-sabotage is arguably the only game in town when you want more peace and joy in your life.

How to Recognize Self-Sabotage

It's simple, yet simple doesn’t mean easy. You’re self-sabotaging when you know what to do, yet either you don’t do it, or you're not getting the results you think you should get.

Lack of results suggests, to use that well-known phrase from Werner Erhard, that:


The problem of self-sabotage is so wide-spread, so complex, that Life Strategies has simplified the whole thing. We've broken down many of the different perspectives about life and how it works into hundreds of small, more understandable chunks. We call these koans.

This approach simplifies the task of addressing your context - where you come from when you do what you do - rather than trying to change what you do itself, your content.

Then you apply what you know to achieving your desired results. This step by step approach enables you to become more effective and hence increases wisdom.

Yes, I hear you say, but what does all this mean in practical terms?

Energy Energizes - it's a Natural Law

Let's use dieting as an example. Do you know that most people who start a diet weigh the same - or even more - a year later. This is because they focus on losing weight, on not being fat, on how many extra pounds they can lose.

Their focus is on what they don't want! Rather focus on a healthy life-style. Being fit. Looking slender and trim. To be able to do this or that. To live longer. To enjoy exercise, etc. etc.

It’s far more productive to put your energy into what you do want. You already know that most people recommend you focus on the positive rather than on the negative. Why?

An important natural law is that Energy Energizes. No matter what you put energy into, it increases. This is just the way nature works. To understand this is to recognize that saying you don't want to be overweight puts energy into what you don't want - being overweight!

The Energy Principle affects everyone's life. So put your energy into what you do want. And if you're getting rather too much of what you don't want, your misuse of this law may be a large part of the reason.

Yet you already know that you understand the Energy Principle - which just goes to demonstrate how much self-sabotage is an ongoing part of your life. Stop here for a moment - and think about this very carefully.

There's No Better Time to Start than Now

Overcoming self-sabotage will take work. It's very similar to getting fit, or going on a diet. You know you need to do it, and you need to do it when you have energy.

Just like losing weight, there's a temptation to believe the misleading promises of the many programs which insist you can lose twenty or fifty pounds by the end of the month without any effort. But you really want long-term results rather than temporary loss.

You're not gullible. You wouldn't believe me if I told you becoming more effective doesn't take hard work anyway! Life Strategies doesn't believe in believing, put your trust in real knowledge instead.

Achieving success in any area invariably means you have to surmount challenges. Although the downhill path is far easier, the view from the top of the mountain is better than at the bottom.

Yet if you go downhill to start with, you'll eventually have to go back up! This lengthens the journey as well as making it harder. So ignore the temptation and go uphill when you’re motivated to start. This means right now! Remember that:

Your Dilemma

When hijacked by the self-sabotage mechanism, the mind resists change. It will tell you that it's important to keep doing what you're doing now. But if what you already know is not giving you the results you want, it's time to become aware of the reasons why.

The study of self-sabotage is the study of the natural laws which give you the results that you have. It's intimately bound up with your context.

Your context is where you come from when you do what you do. Changing what you do doesn’t help that much. But changing your context and overcoming self-sabotage will have enormous benefits on your results.

At Life Strategies, you learn to understand these empowering distinctions. Learning the value of a different perspective is a crucial step towards success. How to tell when your context is the problem will save you the costly consequence of many mistakes.

Yet if this wasn't already abundantly clear to you, self-sabotage has obviously stopped you reaching this conclusion!

But I Already Know All This, some say

Are you one of the many who believe they know "All This", despite your current experience? But if what you think you know is not bringing you the results you want then how can you know? You cannot be doing what works.

Your experience will tell you whether you really do or not. No matter what you say, reality knows the truth!

Much of the human race lives in denial. And this doesn't mean on the river in Egypt! Our society says we want:

• to care for the Earth, yet we chop down her rain-forests and plunder her resources as unlimited
  
  
• a society free of rage and violence, then we entertain ourselves - and our children - with TV programs of graphic rage and violence
  

• our young ones to be responsible, yet our school "Zero-Tolerance" laws take that responsibility away by mandating totally disproportionate, often dysfunctional responses
  

• the truth, yet we follow Adolf Hitler's strategy of lying whenever we think it expedient. After all - doesn't The End Justify The Means? (What's your answer to this vital question? Mine is no - never!)
  

Do any of these strategies work to create the society we want? Aren't these mistakes obvious? Isn't there sufficient evidence of their inevitable consequences right in front of your eyes?

If you don't have the results you really want - which means you live a stress-free life while choosing how to spend your time as well as your money - then you cannot really know "All This." You’ll find your experience will change when you change your perspective.

If you're finding that any of this speaks to your heart, then you know that truth has its own beauty. The elegance of truth gladdens the heart. If you continue exploring these truths, they will bring amazing joy into your life.

The approach of learning to overcome self-sabotage is crucial. It makes a world of difference. What could have kept this realization from you? :-)

Stop your Self-Sabotage

Achieving what you really want means learning how to overcome your self-sabotage mechanism. Everyone has one, and it operates all the time.

The self-sabotage mechanism generally operates through context, rather than content. What's the difference?

• your context is where you come from when you do what you do
  
  
• your content is what you do, how you handle your affairs
  

So manage your context and stop your self-sabotage. Learn the wisdom of doing what works, and not doing what doesn't work. Achieve more while saving both time and energy with this ground-breaking, twenty-first century, Life Strategies e-book program and action plan.

Why Invest in Improving Your Capabilities?

An investment has a return, and your return in stopping your self-sabotage is enormous. There's no bigger return than in improving your capabilities, in becoming more effective.

Life Strategies clients report becoming at least 20% more effective, and one client recently enjoyed an increase of ninety percent after just one year.

In the long run, your increase in effectiveness will increase your earnings by at least the same amount. And the increase is permanent. As Benjamin Franklin famously observed,


How much will a twenty percent increase in earnings amount to in dollars over the rest of your lifetime?

Work this out right now. Don't allow yourself to procrastinate - a very common self-sabotage strategy. Take all the time you need to answer this crucial question this very moment. The answer will change your life!

The result of your calculations will prove to you beyond doubt that your increase in earnings will pay for your investment in your further education many, many times over.

Yet, just like heat from a fire, results are never instantaneous. You first have to buy the logs, then you need to put some kindling in the stove before putting in the wood. Only then can you light and look after the fire, which after a delay will give you heat.

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